A Wonderful Gift and An Extraordinary Life

Friends (Left-Right): Tony Wilson D'Costa, Philip Tushar Gomes and Rock Ronald Rozario on Holy Cassock Day at Holy Spirit National Major Seminary in Banani, Dhaka on 11 April, 2015. 

“If your friendship lasts longer than 7 years, you are no longer just friends. You are family”—is one of the most memorable friendship quotes. It has been more than ten years I have met and been in a friendly relationship with Philip Tushar Gomes, a wonderful man who decided to give up all worldly pleasures for love of God and God’s people for the rest of his life. He could have a life of his own and enjoy all the comforts that today’s extremely globalized, materialistic and consumerist modern world can offer. But by embracing ‘eternal priesthood’ Philip has made an extraordinary choice—to live a life in the service of God and His people.

More than a decade ago, I met a bunch of energetic, dedicated and witty youth activists when I joined Episcopal Commission for Youth as a member of the Executive Committee including Philip Tushar Gomes, Tony Wilson D’Costa and Lawrence Dipankar Gomes from Dhaka, Manik D’Costa and Clifton Gomes from Chittagong, Sony Ratna from Khulna and Pius Nanuar from Sylhet. From 1999-2007, I was a priesthood candidate myself and spent years in three diocesan seminaries in Dhaka. My time in the youth ministry became worthwhile and a learning experience because of these friendly people I met and worked with.

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ছোটবেলায় আমি বেশ লাজুক ও নিরীহ স্বভাবের ছিলাম সেটা হোক বাড়িতে, স্কুল বা বন্ধুমহলে। মনে পরে বাবা যদি কোনদিন কারো কাছে পাওনা টাকা ফেরত আনতে পাঠাতেন, তা চাইতে গেলেও আমার লজ্জা লাগতো। ক্লাস ফোরে পড়ার সময় আমাদের পবিত্র যীশু হৃদয় ধর্মপল্লীর (রাঙ্গামাটিয়া) সেবক দলে ভর্তি হই এবং ঐ বছরই কোন একদিন মিশায় সেবক হওয়ার পালা পরে। সেদিন ভয়ের চেয়ে লজ্জাই বেশি পেয়েছিলাম, আর তাই সেবকের কাজে ভুল করে ফেলেছিলাম। সাথে আমাদের বাড়ির এক বড় ভাই ছিল তাই কোন সমস্যা ছাড়াই পার পেয়ে যাই।

পরবর্তী জীবনে এই লাজুক ও নিরীহ ভাবটা কাটিয়ে উঠতে পেরেছি, এবং এর পেছনে বড় অবদান আমার দীর্ঘ নয় বছরের (১৯৯৯-২০০৭) সেমিনারি জীবন। ক্লাস নাইন থেকে বি.এ. চূড়ান্ত বর্ষ পর্যন্ত ঢাকার তিনটি ধর্মপ্রদেশীয় সেমিনারিতে নানা অঞ্চলের সহপাঠী, বড় ও ছোট ভাইদের সঙ্গে কাটিয়েছি। দেশের বিভিন্ন অঞ্চল ও জেলার নানা মানুষের সাথে পরিচয় হয়েছে—বাঙ্গালি ও আদিবাসী। একাদিক্রমে বাংলাদেশের বাকি সাত ধর্মপ্রদেশের সাথে যোগসূত্র স্থাপনে আমার সেমিনারি জীবন একটি চাবিকাঠি হিসেবে কাজ করেছে।

তবে, এ সত্ত্বেও, উত্তরবঙ্গ তথা রাজশাহী অঞ্চলে আমার ভাল কোন সংযোগ হয়নি। এর প্রধান কারণ সেমিনারি জীবনে আমাদের ব্যাচে এই এলাকার কোন সহপাঠী ছিল না। অন্যান্য ব্যাচে বেশ কয়েকজন বড় ও ছোট ভাই ছিল, বাঙ্গালি ও আদিবাসী। বাঙ্গালি যারা তাদের মুখের ভাষা ছিল হুবুহু আমাদের ভাওয়াল অঞ্চলের চলিত কথ্য ভাষা। তাদের কথা শুনে প্রথমে অবাক হয়েছিলাম, যদিও জানতাম ঐ অঞ্চলের তিনটি বড় ধর্মপল্লীর (মথুরাপুর, বোর্ণী ও বনপাড়া) প্রায় সব বাঙ্গালি খ্রিস্টানই আমাদের ভাওয়াল অঞ্চলের অভিবাসী ও তাদের বংশধর। আমার বাবার দুই মামা ও এক মাসি যথাক্রমে পাবনার চাটমোহর ও নাটোরের শ্রীখণ্ডীতে কয়েক দশক পূর্ব থেকে বসবাস করে আসছেন। ছোটবেলায় দেখতাম বাবার মামাতো ও মাসতুতো ভাই-বোনেরা আমাদের বাড়িতে বেড়াতে আসতেন। তবে সময়ের পরিক্রমায় যাতায়াত এবং সম্পর্ক উভয়েই ভাঁটা পড়ে যায়।

Tradition, spirituality and joy: Christmas carols in Bangladesh

A group of Catholics perform Borodiner Kirtan (Christmas carols) in Dhaka on Dec. 16. (Photo: Stephan Uttom/ucanews)

Hiron Patrick Gomes is a bit upset that his team lost its crown at a recent Borodiner Kirtan (Christmas Carol) contest in Bangladesh's capital Dhaka.

Gomes' team was among 17 Kirtan Dals (Carol Groups) from around the country that participated on Dec. 16 in a competition organized by the Christian Cooperative Credit Union Ltd (CCCUL), the country's largest cooperative bank.

It was the third version of the contest hosted by the CCCUL, coming just days before most Christians in the city head back to their villages to spend Christmas with family and friends.

Gomes and his team were champions last year but this year had to settle for fourth.

"We practiced for more than a week and performed quite well. We are a bit upset, but not heartbroken. In the past years, I have won many competitions and hope to win more in the future," Gomes, 32, a Catholic father of one, told ucanews.

Gomes Gomes has been an ardent kirtan fan since he was a boy and has sung in numerous carol performances in his home village of Doripara in Gazipur district, covered by Dhaka Archdiocese, one of Bangladesh's oldest and largest Catholic settlements.

"For Christians in the country, carols have special significance during Christmas season in terms of spirituality and culture," Gomes told ucanews. "I have been involved with carols since my childhood in the village. Every Christmas we used to form groups and sing carols at every house in the village."

Gomes, a professional singer, spent a few years at a diocesan seminary and his time there helped him learn various forms of traditional carols.

He is now a busy NGO worker and lives with his family in Dhaka but never misses the chance to take part in Christmas carols, whether at home or in contests.

"Carol is a soulful expression of our joy and spirituality during Christmas, our pride and heritage. We are glad that together we are back to revive and carry on our age-old tradition. I hope this will continue in the coming days," Gomes added.

A Christmas special

Kirtan is a widely popular tradition among Bengali Christians in Bhawal as well in other parts of the country and also among ethnic indigenous Catholics in the north and northeast of Bangladesh.

A dispassionate farewell to a solemn year in Bangladesh

Bangladesh's Prime Minister Sheikh Hasina and her party, the Awami League, have become intolerant of criticism since winning their third straight election in 2018. (Photo by Prakash Singh/AFP)

Every time users log into Facebook they are prompted to post “what’s on your mind” or “what have you been up to.”

Christmas is only a few days away and the year is diminishing fast so it is a good time to reflect on what Bangladesh, and the Church in particular, have encountered in 2019 and what 2020 might have in store.

The illusion of human rights in South Asia

An Indian policeman walks past as people hold a candlelight vigil in Bangalore on Dec. 6 in support of sexual assault victims and against the rape and murder of a 27-year-old veterinarian in Hyderabad. (Photo: Manjunath Kiran/AFP)

Only hours after police in the southern Indian city of Hyderabad killed in "an encounter" all four men accused of the rape and murder of a veterinarian, many people in the country exploded in wild cheers.

Men and women chanted cheerful slogans and came rushing to congratulate police, flooded them with flower petals and distributed sweets. Some even set off firecrackers in great delight.

"This is what these filthy animals deserved and the police have done a great job," some chanted as people from all walks of life, including politicians and film stars, hailed the police as heroes.

The police had assuaged public anger over a case that provoked street protests after the brutal rape and murder on Nov. 27.

Only a few people including rights activists questioned how the extrajudicial killing of the accused on Dec. 6 was permitted in a country famed as "the world's largest democracy."

Ranjana Kumari, director of the Center for Social Research, a social advocacy group, termed the police action an "utter violation" of human rights and "a total failure" of the criminal justice system, warning that India was moving toward a vigilante justice system.

There is little doubt that the accused men committed the most serious crime, but in the 21st century we cannot rely on stray bullets to deliver quick justice. This is nothing but committing one crime to obliterate another one.

The Hyderabad case represents a common feature of human rights violations in many countries in today's world, including those in South Asia.